Damaged “Goods”?

One of the foundations of Soul Realignment is the clearing of negative programs and deep seeded beliefs that are not in alignment with who we truly are and impedes our ability to learn and achieve important life lessons.

One example of the programs are beliefs that we have bought into at one time or another that run in the background of our consciousness, broadcasting negative messages over and over again. Some programs are carry-overs from prior lifetimes, while others are a reflection of our physical environment and third dimensional experiences.

Our understanding of these experiences can have profound effects on our programming and belief system on a subconscious level, sculpted by where we live, who we interact with, our life circumstances and our general treatment and experience in the World.

Subconscious messages can get stuck in our psyche creating self doubt, self criticism and a slew of other negative mind chattering, telling us that we don’t possibly have the resources to succeed and undermining our self confidence. Once we bring the energy of the program into our lives as a belief, it can produce so much negativity that over time, we begin to unconsciously believe the message…it becomes part of ourselves and part of our personality.

For many of us, our childhood is when we are first introduced to programs that can become so deeply rooted in our psyches. One of the more damaging programs for many of us is what has been appropriately dubbed, “The Good Child Syndrome“.

The Good Child Syndrome begins when we are first getting our chubby little legs under ourselves as toddlers. We are no longer infants and we can see, taste, touch, move things around all by ourselves. We can feel love and begin to understand how we can interact with the world and what we can receive in return. In these early years we get loads of praise, love and acceptance…acceptance from our parents, our entire family and even the nice lady at the grocery store. To quote a friend of mine, we are surrounded by, “Love, Hugs and Peace”! We love it when we hear, That’s great Cindy! Look what you did! You are such a Good Girl! And we beam in the glow of the heartfelt admiration.

We soon learn that hey, this is alright… I feel loved when I’ve been good… everybody likes me when I’m good! And when we do good, we get to go to the park, we get ice cream from the ice cream truck, we get to stay up late and watch TV and eat popcorn! As long as we are good we get all kinds of perks in this life. As we get older, we think that we have it figured out and we don’t need to think twice about it. This life thing is not a big mystical conundrum, we just have to be good and we get what we want right?

Well the truth is, the internal “Good Child” can hold us back from our personal evolution because we are constantly looking for external recognition and approval, placing our critics values ahead of our own. The decisions that we make in our lives are subconsciously being run through “The Good Child” filter. We look for acceptance and approval from others before we act and are always questioning our own self worth, which can lead to pain, disappointment and resentment.

We evolve into valuing ourselves by the number of good deeds that we have performed through the gauge of others’ eyes. We look to overachieve in order to demonstrate our value. Because we want to do good, we all too often dismiss our needs because to be selfish with ourselves is, well, somehow bad in our minds.

We get entangled in what action can we take that others would consider good and what is sacrificed is our ability to live our lives based on our true identity and sacrificing our true authenticity in the process. We no longer look to our internal guidance systems and our intuition for answers because we make our decisions based on what will make others happy, with a total disregard for our own fulfillment.

It is indeed a very tricky and damaging game that we can play with ourselves. Ask yourself when the last time was that you acted completely selfishly, not caring in the least what others might think of your decision. Did you follow your conscious or did you listen to your ego mind telling you what you should or shouldn’t do? Did you think about what others might think of you if you took the action that your heart was guiding you towards, or did you cave to the pressure of being “The Good Child”?

So much of modern society is broken down into absolutes, good or bad, black or white, Democrat or Republican, Christian or Muslim, and to be good, we feel pressure to decide one way or the other…you’re either with us or against us. When we give in to this non-thinking paradigm, we essentially forfeit our gift of free will. We choose sides and cave in to societal pressures and join other lost and confused souls. Our ability to think and act for our highest good and the highest good of others is surrendered to the falsehoods of a mass consciousness clusterfuck.

Listen to your heart, your higher self and follow the messages that you are receiving from your spirit and your conscience. Remember, that your judgments about what is good or bad, right or wrong, creates absolutes…and absolutes undeniably create intolerance.

Are There Dangers to Being Spiritual?

In a recent CNN article by John Blake titled “Are there dangers in being spiritual but not religious?” John referred to a survey that stated more “millenials”, (people between the ages of 18 and 29 years old), identify themselves as being “spiritual” rather than “religious”. He describes it as trendy phrase people use to describe their beliefs. There is even an acronym for the phrase SBNR.

Okay, I’m more of a “tweener” myself having been born in the 60′s, but if I were asked about my religious views, my response would be the same…”I’m spiritual but not religious”. I have a tremendous connection to spirit and the divine, but I am not affiliated with any particular religious organization.

Now, I can understand why some of the religious pundits feel the way that they do, but to refer to the growing trend of SBNR as dangerous? Don’t you think that statement is just a teeny bit melodramatic?

Organized religion is in a battle for its very existence. While people continue to the leave the church and new memberships are down, scandal and deceit continue to flood the headlines and haunt the hierarchy. Atrocities committed in the name of religion by inbred fanatics, (can you say, Westboro Baptist Church?), has worn down the resolve of many generations. Is it no wonder why people are thinking for themselves and disassociating from these organizations?

The very definition of spirituality is changing. No longer is the path to spiritual growth being considered to be through an organization with a facilitator that will speak to God for them. Spiritual people have come to the conclusion that the dogmas associated with organized religion and the “my way or the highway” mentality doesn’t serve anyone. They realize that God fearing needs to be replaced with God loving, that God is not a distant deity that resides “up there”, but that God is… and God’s love is… within all of us. Spiritually minded people are taking responsibility for their awakening and developing their own personal relationship based on all-inclusive love of humanity and spirit.

Is this dangerous? Well some think so, they claim that SBNR people are selfish, egotistical and just plain lazy. That being spiritual but not religious can lead to being complacent and self-centered, while damaging the community at large. There point is that SBNR people have no connection with their community so “Why help the poor”.

SBNR individuals as a whole, care deeply about their communities, their environment and the damage that humanity has propagated on their fellow man and the planet. They are developing a very personal connection with spirit and God and have studied tirelessly on the subject and continue to grow, all the while maintaining an open mind that allows others to embrace their views without verbal or physical persecution.

All around the World old structure, financial institution, corporations and governments are being dissolved and dismantled. The energy of the times is pulling away the veil to expose the abominations that have been committed. Organized religion has had their shot over thousands of years to spiritually evolve this planet and failed, the true meanings and teachings have been lost in a struggle for power, money and control. Tell me…where does the real danger lie?